Attended A Parenting Class
Posted (msaufong) in Learning, Parenting on 6-August-2008

Yesterday after work, I joint Xilly to attend a parenting class that nearby my office. Not sure is it useful or not the information given by the lecturer, but I would like to share something I feel quite meaningful and nice example here.

Example 1 :
There are two animal trainers in two different Circus. They are training different group of lions and tigers.

Trainer 1 – lions and tigers follow his command and always complete his instruction. He wants them to roll then they roll, want them sit then they will sit good good.
Trainer 2 – Lions and tigers refuse to follow his command and totally not co-operate.. When he wants the lions roll the lion just don’t bother him, mo matter he is scream, scold or hit it.
What problem do you think from above? Who is the one having problem? The animal trainer or the animal?

Example 2 :
Let us do a test to control your mind now. Follow below instructions :-

  • Please don’t think of LEMON.
  • Don’t think the LEMON is sour.
  • Don’t think the LEMON is yellow color one.
  • Don’t think the LEMON is big.
  • Don’t think the LEMON ah!
  • Don’t think.

Now, tell me what are you thinking or what is in your mind?

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I am not sure could you get the meaning inside the example or not as I hard to express what have I listened yesterday. :lol: I just agar agar lah…

For Example 1 : – who is the one should change
Animal trainer – parent
lions and tigers – children

For example 2 : - direct instruction give to the children
When you scream NO and DON’T to the children. You know what the signal they get actually.
Don’t run – STOP
Don’t make noise – QUIET
Don’t go out – COME BACK

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I think most of the parents do understand the meaning of above example. But, do you able to do it right? Frankly, I CANNOT! I am forgetful and no patient at all. I understand but I can’t remember it all the time. When the “wind” brow up to my head I will easily get angry and forgot about all those shouldn’t do matters. *Sign*
(7) Comments
Jesslyn on August 6th, 2008 at 10:15 am #

You can still act your way but when come to children edu or discipline , u better change your attitude, else they will follow u. Be serious!

Good luck.

huisia on August 6th, 2008 at 12:19 pm #

what jess said is true, but like you, i always go mad when the “wind” comes..:)

chooi peng on August 6th, 2008 at 2:23 pm #

frankly, i thought SQ is very easy to handle wan!

debbie on August 8th, 2008 at 5:31 pm #

i used to attend a parenting talk also. The example 2 was exactly like what you said. Tell the children the main point instead of using the words like DON’T or NO.

Take it easy… as we learn from our mistake, right?

Tracy on August 9th, 2008 at 2:34 pm #

It’s easier said than done. Not all children are the same. Some are so difficult to handle and some are like ‘lambs’. Whoever doesn’t like her kid to be an ‘angel’ leh?

Like mine, it’s not dat I din teach her to call auntie or uncle when she sees and when asked to but it seems so difficult to ask her to do so. When I ask her to STOP (in a nice way), she won’t, I’ll have to shout ‘I SAID DON’T RUN’, she’ll stop.

IT’S JUST NOT EASY RAISING UP A CHILD.

Trainer 1 – he must have feeding the animals well and rewarding them whenever they did some stunts (meaning we must reward our kids when they have done something good).

Trainer 2 – he must be ill treating the animals and not feeding them well or rewarding them when they have done their stunts (meaning he has hurt the feelings of the animals)

HAHAHAHAHA!

A LEMON IS ALWAYS A LEMON AND IS ALWAYS SOUR AND YELLOW IN COLOUR! (heehee)

msaufong on August 9th, 2008 at 2:59 pm #

Debbie, Yeap..should from the mistake but too bad i am very forgetful and always repeat the same mistake! :lol:

Tracy, WAH!! you more keng than the lecturer ler!

Richard on August 19th, 2008 at 12:26 am #

I think your kid SQ is easy to handle so, you don’t have to worry about it.

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