I thought I should breathe deeply on the time want to control anger and not to explode it. Most of the time deep breathe was not able to hold my anger. After deep breathe I will still scold people like siao. More oxygen goes into lung already, sure can scold people “kaokao” lor…”;p;”

I learnt an opposite skill to hold my anger from the Parenting Class. I was not sure is it able to hold my anger or not until I have chance to use the method. Anyway, it looks very logic for me. that is why I could remember this and prepare to use it if I am angry.

Finally, I tried it last week.

At night, SQ & Kiki do not want to sleep although it was already 11pm. I am busying rushing pp and already tried my best to comfort them to sleep and not to scold them. But still they do not want to sleep and keep come out to complain this and that until I beh tahan.

I grabbed the rattan and almost break the rattan. Suddenly remembered that method and hold my breathe until I can’t stand. On that time I have no more breath to scold already. When I back to normal and think to scold again, i already do not know how to scold liao…

I will use this method to control my temper now. although I am still angry after that but at least I do not do something that I will regret when I am siao angry. I think that is already good enough for me and the children.

According to my mother, SQ & Kiki were playing in the living room at the afternoon. Two monsters play very happily while she was busy cooking in the kitchen. Nobody cry and nobody come to her to complain kena bully or kena pukul. But………..here was what happen later….

Even the Kiki also do not know how she got the scars when we asked her. SQ also doesn’t know ler….aiyoh!!!! Terrible naughty Kiki lahhhhhhhhhhhh

I finally bought the Bath Crayons to SQ & Kiki! I saw those bath crayons at Sasha’s blog quit long time ago, I am interested to buy the Bath Crayons for quite some time already. But it Sasha grabbed all the stock, no more for me lor..I wait until now still didn’t see they have new stocks come in.

This siao woman keeps influence to shop in Japan online store again..Then I am so happy to find the Bath Crayons in the online store! Although it is different from the type Sasha bought, but the price is much cheaper, so I mai bought to try lor..I received the bath crayons yesterday and let SQ & Kiki have fun in bathroom immediately after back home. They like it! Me too..:lol: …Previously where got chance to conteng kat wall ahh..:p

Oh ya..I got ordered extra sets to save cost on the shipment charges. If you want the bath crayon also, you can get it at my eBay listing – http://search.ebay.com.my/_W0QQsassZsqkiki .

Mama eat full nothing to do at night, so cathed two girls and chitchating with them in living hall.

SQ : “mama. popo ask Kiki wants DiDi or not ler today”

mama : “oh? Didi ah..then what Kiki says?”

SQ : “Kiki said doesn’t want Didi wor:…She wants meimei”

mama : “then what you want?”

SQ : “I don’t know wor..”

mama : “you want meimei or didi ler? want didi moh?”

SQ : “你要不是生啰,不要不是不要生啰..” (You want you mai give birth lor..you don’t want mai don’t give birth lor)

eeeeee….correct also ah…Why I ask them ler? But hor…how she know baby is give birth (生) one? how she knows i want saja then can give birth keh?

I do not know how to communicate with SQ & Kiki. I know and fully understand it, but I do not know how to improve it. Even I attended the lesson two of Parenting course yesterday. cakap is easy lah…but it extremely difficult when have to “do” it!

According to the lecturer, he said we should use Empathic skills (同理心） to communicate with children. But what is Empathic skills? My parent and teacher didn’t teach me that! haha…of course I understand what is that after spent many to take the parenting course lah…

Empathic skills = reading the mind (同理心 = 读心情)

Explanation :

Parents should read the minds of the children. or read it to them. When children feel that their parents have accepted them, it is easier for them to accept their parents, making it easier for them to listen to parents.

Example 1 :
child says : I do not want to play with him anymore!
child’s thinking :angry, irritated

parent should response :
you are angry with him?
instead of
Don’t always remember this incident; he doesn’t do it on purpose.

Example 2 :
child says : I do not want to go to school today, xxx is very fierce.
child’s thinking : worry, escape

parent should response :
Everyone must go to school, this is the rule.
instead of
Are you worrying that she will bully you today?

it looks easy but it is hard to me. I am very careless person, it is hard for me to read their mind. My brain couldn’t work well on this, i am too slow in thinking of people feeling.  is this call 迟钝?  :p

Ok lah..I will still read to read children read..see how their response.

Last two weeks suppose a very happy week for me. Fatty’s birthday, my birthday and our wedding anniversary all fall into last two week. We used to be celebrate our big day continuously. But last week I got nothing!

Fatty’s birthday come first, I bought him a cake and Mcdonald to celebrate his birthday because the day was fall on weekday. I was planning to go out for candle dinner on my birthday and wedding anniversary kemah..Who knows we couldn’t make it!

*sign* our 10 years of met day anniversary and 7 years wedding Anniversary gone like that saja…without any celebration..me not even receive “bulu” from him!

Lucky, I have a belated surprise from this lady. Else I would be very kesian in my birthday d. But hor….I wonder am I really so lady for her..Why this bag? Why so femininity one??? How dare I carry it to kaikai???