Yesterday after work, I joint Xilly to attend a parenting class that nearby my office. Not sure is it useful or not the information given by the lecturer, but I would like to share something I feel quite meaningful and nice example here.
Example 1 :
There are two animal trainers in two different Circus. They are training different group of lions and tigers.
Trainer 1 – lions and tigers follow his command and always complete his instruction. He wants them to roll then they roll, want them sit then they will sit good good.
Trainer 2 – Lions and tigers refuse to follow his command and totally not co-operate.. When he wants the lions roll the lion just don’t bother him, mo matter he is scream, scold or hit it.
What problem do you think from above? Who is the one having problem? The animal trainer or the animal?
Example 2 :
Let us do a test to control your mind now. Follow below instructions :-
- Please don’t think of LEMON.
- Don’t think the LEMON is sour.
- Don’t think the LEMON is yellow color one.
- Don’t think the LEMON is big.
- Don’t think the LEMON ah!
- Don’t think.
Now, tell me what are you thinking or what is in your mind?
I am not sure could you get the meaning inside the example or not as I hard to express what have I listened yesterday. I just agar agar lah…
For Example 1 : – who is the one should change
Animal trainer – parent
lions and tigers – children
For example 2 : - direct instruction give to the children
When you scream NO and DON’T to the children. You know what the signal they get actually.
Don’t run – STOP
Don’t make noise – QUIET
Don’t go out – COME BACK
I think most of the parents do understand the meaning of above example. But, do you able to do it right? Frankly, I CANNOT! I am forgetful and no patient at all. I understand but I can’t remember it all the time. When the “wind” brow up to my head I will easily get angry and forgot about all those shouldn’t do matters. *Sign*